Monday, 31 March 2014

It's not Goodbye, it's See You Later

This week, one of my mom's oldest and dearest friends (we worked it out to 20+ years) Jill, moved down to Cape Town to start the new chapter in her life.

After investigating the option for some time, everything fell into place at the beginning of the month when Jill's official employment transfer papers were signed, and her first day at Christiaan Barnard Memorial Hospital was determined as 1 April. Jilly was moving to the Cape, to be nearer to her daughter, Kelly. The news registered, but reality hadn't quite sunk in.

My mom was thrilled for her friend, and supported her during those rather busy weeks. The night before the two day journey to Cape Town, Jill stayed at my mom's house and the two of them went for a last dinner together (only for a few months). I said goodbye to Jilly that evening, not being very strong when it comes to farewells, and after trying in vain to stay dry eyed, I broke down. This was it. 

Jill worked a registered nurse at the Linmed Hospital in Benoni, and always the first person we'd contact for advice when someone we knew had fallen ill, or had some sort of medical issue that we weren't sure of. She was also our go to lady when a friend or family member was having an operation or procedure performed at the hospital, and would diligently check in on that person in the recovery ward then let us know how they were doing. Jill popped in when Courtney was in theater preparing to deliver Dylan, and checked on William when her damaged his knee playing football last year. Her wealth of medical knowledge has proven invaluable to us and to all the other patients that she has treated/cared for over her many years at Linmed. We thank you, Jilly.

The things I'll miss most is discussing the latest films at the cinema, and Jill relaying some interesting general knowledge to us - we've all learnt so much from you!

Jill and my mom were both single parents and that shared bond meant we did many things together. Jill, Brad & Kel were regular features at our family events too. Memories of many weekends spent away at the farm, trips to the beach and game reserves, flood our minds and we have so many photographs to remind us of these happy occasions.

BUT, it's not goodbye. It's see you later.

Cape Town is a two hour flight away, and you can count on us visiting soon. My mom has two other close friends in the Cape - Michelle and Hayley - so when we go down our visits are always filled with wonderful catch ups.

Jilly - we are so happy and proud of you, and wish you every success in your new home and workplace. You are an asset to any company and although we will miss you, bigger and better things await. Johannesburg's loss is Cape Town's gain, and I know Kel will be so happy to have her mum nearby again. 

This photograph was taken at my 21st birthday in 2007, Jilly dressed as a surgeon as part of the "S" theme

My mom and Jill at the Barnyard Theatre, August 2012
Kelly, my mom and Jilly at my mom's 50th birthday lunch last year


"Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you know they are always there."



Sunday, 23 March 2014

Why I Love Birthdays

Birthday. That day of the year when the pendulum swings into the next year of our lives.

Some people don't like birthdays and will go to extreme measures to downplay the occasion. Whether this is due to not wanting to accept the fact that they are getting older, or don't like being in the spotlight, the reason varies from person to person.

Personally I LOVE birthdays. Obviously the age bit is less than ideal, but the huge plus factor, in my opinion, is the celebration. Birthdays (and unfortunately funerals) are the two occasions that bring people together, and that quality time (birthdays only) is what I treasure. Having a casual braai at home (having a house full of people is one of my all time favorite things in life), or going out to a venue -  the 'what' isn't the operative word. Rather the 'who'. The pleasure of your friends and family's company.

We don't celebrate enough. We get wrapped up - or tunnel visioned - in our lives and stress over many facets of our existence (finances and work to name but a few), that we actually forget that life is passing us by. We'll never get those days back, and one day when we're watching the replay of our time on Earth, what will we regret? I'll regret the days spent worrying over matters I have no control over, instead of the time that I said yes to a friend's invitation. There's nothing more expensive than regrets, and that I truly believe.

It's not about being the center of attention either. Yes, you'll receive more calls and messages than any other day, but why not think of it as a compliment that so many people treasure you and want to wish you a happy birthday? Honestly, I think a lot of birthdays would go unacknowledged if it weren't for Facebook and it's daily reminders, however, the wisher still took the time to send the wishee (is that even a word?) a message.

What makes a good birthday? In addition to the advantages I've mentioned above, CAKE! If there's one day of the year (OK, Christmas makes two)  where it is absolutely imperative to stray from the diet it's a birthday. Eat, drink and be merry! Have your cake and eat it too. Life is too short not to.

Gifting. This is where the waters get murky. The average person cannot afford to buy every single friend a present. Sadly, in today's world, a 'decent' present (if buying a voucher or contributing cash) is considered approximately R300. Multiply that by the number of friends you would normally buy gifts for and it's rather expensive over a year. If there's one thing I hate it's being invited somewhere just to give a present. The host (possibly a friend of a friend of a friend) doesn't care for your presence, and you may only be acquaintances -  but you've been invited to their birthday party. Why? 

William and I have decided to only buy gifts for friends on landmark birthdays and special occasions (weddings, baby showers, etc)  as it is simply too expensive. By the same token, we do not want or expect gifts from friends on our birthdays. So friends -  if you're reading this, please don't be offended that we haven't bought you gifts, this is why. Age brings with it life lessons, and what was important 5 years ago is not up there on the list of priorities now. As a child I was always excited to open my birthday presents, the higher the number the better. As an adult my values have changed, and now gifts are the least important.

I make big deals out of birthdays. Celebrations would last a week if I had it my way. There's nothing better than showering your loved ones with love and attention, for no other reason to show them how much you mean to them. And yes, we should show this appreciation every day, it's that much more special on a birthday. I plan William's and my birthday parties a month in advance, and countdowns start at more or less the same time.

You're the oldest you've ever been, and youngest than you'll ever be again.

Powerful statement. Make the most out of life.

William is the most recent person in our family to celebrate a birthday. Here are some photographs taken today.




Thursday, 20 March 2014

5 Things Thursday

A fellow blogger created this series called '7 Things' and I found the idea extremely appealing as it would bring variety to each post. Instead of rambling on about one subject for 12 000 characters which could possibly result in a reader (or even myself) losing interest, I am able to include multiple topics without making them seem inane or irrelevant of one another.

So here goes, a wrap up of the week that was:

1) The Oscar Pistorius Trial. No matter where one goes in South Africa, we are bombarded with up to the minute coverage of the trial. We have a dedicated radio and television channel broadcasting the proceedings live (a world first - fist pump for SA), newspaper headlines lead with the latest developments - it's even all over social media. Now in its' third week, and with no prospect of the end in sight, some members of the public are getting frustrated. What started off as interest has been replaced with boredom. The fact of the matter is he shot dead his girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp. No question about it. Now, the issue at hand is whether it was premeditated or self defence, and the sentence he receives will be based on this outcome. Witnesses of all calibers have been called from neighbours of the paralympian athlete to experts from the USA. Everyone has an opinion on what happened that fateful night, but only the court's verdict counts. 



2) The disappearance of flight MH370. The aircraft, carrying 239 people, disappeared on 8 March. No distress signals were transmitted, and according to engineers all modes of communication were severed  a mere hour into the flight, setting off theories of a hijacking. If it was a hijacking, wouldn't the captors have made contact and given their demands? I find the "Lost" theory very hard to believe. Basically the aircraft has landed on some remote island (possibly as part of the hijacking). Seriously, it's a Boeing. It requires a certain distance of runway on which to land, and wouldn't someone have spotted the plane? The chances of these people being found alive are virtually zero. They would not have had enough supplies on which to survive, and if the aircraft landed/crashed into the sea, they would have required immediate rescue. Another interesting theory (and one I'm tending to agree with) was compiled by Chris Goodfellow, a pilot. Read it here.

Earlier today, assumed pieces of wreckage off the western coast of Perth were spotted via satellite. Ships from multiple nations converged on the area but the weather was poor and visibility limited. The search will resume tomorrow, and hopefully some closure will be brought to the matter. I can't imagine what the families of those on board may be experiencing, but to find out what happened may ease their sadness somewhat.



3) William celebrates his birthday this Sunday! My other half will be celebrating the 32nd anniversary of the day of his birth, and we are going to spend the day doing whatever he wants. It's only right seeing as though it is his birthday. Happy happy birthday my love, I wish you a year of health, wealth and happiness and a lifetime of joy in abundance.

4) Tomorrow is Human Rights Day in South Africa. Ramsey Clark said "A right is not what someone gives you; it's what no-one can take from you." Be kind to your fellow man, and accept them for who they are. Humanity has fought enough fights. Live and let live.


5) This week I received my first compliment from my boss! Happiness is. 

Wishing you all an awesome long weekend. 

Thursday, 13 March 2014

Time Management - A Skill I need to Develop

Having re-entered the workforce last week, and therefore not being able to keep my own hours, I have been forced to budget my time. 

Balance and moderation is everything.

I need to factor in all my time drivers such as gym, walking, preparing for my Saturday morning lectures, social events, blogging and everything in between. Last week (the first week) was an abomination. I actually felt like I was in a washing machine. The world continuing around me, but I didn't know which way was up. I was disorganized and unprepared for the major change that had just taken place. Disorganized. Unprepared. Two words not normally used to describe my character. As much as I hated it, I needed that wake up call to kick start my survival mode and figure out a plan of action.

I normally reply to any sort of communication immediately, but being new and under the watchful eye of my manager and colleagues, my phone remained securely in my handbag. Previously I was ever present on social media, constantly refreshing my news feeds on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. I felt compelled to stay up to date with every event happening in people's lives - from close friends to acquaintances, I had to know everything. Now I sneak in a few minutes on the above mentioned platforms (waiting for the kettle to boil or while dinner is in the microwave). Strangely enough, I don't miss it. Missing out on some status updates is of no consequence or effect in my life. Quite a powerful realization that was.

Many people all over the world juggle their time every day, some are even married and have children. Granted I don't have children so I skip the homework and extra mural taxi service gauntlets, but I still have to prepare dinner and make lunches for both William and I. Yes we have a domestic worker three days per week so cleaning the house isn't on my checklist, but I do still want to keep it tidy. Making the bed, packing the dishwasher, sorting laundry and the dreaded grocery shopping all take time out of my day. These items must be included.

My working hours are 7 - 3:30 Monday to Thursday, and I attend lectures every Saturday from 8am -  3pm. We are given homework to complete before the next lecture. I have worked and studied before, and somehow managed to get everything done then so this time will be no different. If I set aside one hour per day, four days per week I can complete the homework and will be in a better position come exam time in May. From June onward I have no intention of studying until January when I register for Honors. The break will do me good, I can regroup and enjoy not having to study -  the first time in 8 years.

In addition to all of the above, I want to see my friends, go to movies, catch up with my mom (yes, we live a few steps away from each other but still), and generally have fun. I realize I will have to choose between walking and the calisthenics class I attend for an hour Monday to Thursday. As walking has yielded the best results in terms of losing weight and fitness (a story for another post), it seems to be the most logical choice. I can always attend a class if the weather is unfavorable for walking, and other days when I can squeeze it in.

This week has gone a lot smoother as I am finding my groove (or keeping the balls airborne) and although I don't have a set timetable it may not be a bad idea to create one (this is a typical Virgo trait so please don't laugh).

Have a fantastic weekend all.



Saturday, 8 March 2014

Being the Newbie

My first week at my new job is complete, and it has been challenging to say the least. Sunday night I barely slept, nerves got the better of me and come Monday morning I was still out of sorts. I don't think anyone can't NOT be nervous when starting a new job.

I've always wanted to work for a "big" company, and am loving the vast number of employees (approx 150 in Johannesburg alone), and the professional environment. I was, however, unprepared for the amount of admin I would be required to complete - and that was only part of the new employee take on procedure! I have manuals covering just about every facet of the Human Resources function and apparently I am attending an induction next month, where new employees will be taken on a tour of the entire premises and have the finer details explained to us. I'm looking forward to this as I'm one of those people that like to have a broad understanding of the bigger picture. Completeness if you will.

I joined the finance team (consisting of 30 people) at their busiest time - month end. As the company is a multinational and is required to report it's financial information to the holding company in the Netherlands, major month end reports are run and the figures contained therein has to be completely accurate. This places a huge burden on the team to ensure the variances between budgeted and actual values stay within an acceptable range, or a very good explanation for the difference must be provided. We have four days to run the procedures (on the accounting program and Excel),  make any adjustments, then investigate unacceptable differences before reporting the end result by midnight on the fourth day. 

Now I know this doesn't sound like much, but considering the volume of transactions and the fact that we are required to prepare Namibia's financial information as well, I felt like a goldfish in the Atlantic. The month end procedures will fall under my duties so I asked many questions and even performed some of the tasks under the supervision of the financial manager. It was... Interesting. The tasks are not difficult, but the person needs to have a firm understanding of the business and the transport industry in order to produce accurate results.

Whilst my colleagues have been friendly and welcoming, I sense they suspect I will not last long in my position. I was asked numerous times on Friday alone, how I felt month end went and it was so awful etc. I said no, it was not that bad but because I'm new to the company it is obviously more demanding. Come next month I'll be even more familiar with everything, and it will run smoother. My predecessor apparently only lasted a year in the position, so maybe they think the job will get the better of me and I too will resign.

Not going to happen. I'm not a quitter (my love of chocolate has proven this) and I will master this job and it's responsibilities. Their doubt in me has pushed me to prove them wrong, and that is my aim for the future.

Have an awesome weekend further!


Monday, 3 March 2014

The Job Hunt is Not for Sissies - but it's OVER!

7 Interviews,
5 recruitment agencies,
3 tanks of petrol,
2 calendar months,
1 box of tranquilizers, and
Countless competency tests and explaining myself to so many different individuals later...

I AM NO LONGER UNEMPLOYED!

Whoohoo!!

It has been quite a journey, one that definitely built character, but I am glad it is over nonetheless.

I started my new job as an accountant at a multi-national freight company today. I did not post this news until the signatures were on the dotted line (one never knows, anything may happen) but now that they are I am able to share the news. The office is situated a mere 13km from home, and with a professional environment and flexi hours, it is a match made in heaven.

The very first recruitment agent I met with secured the interview, which took place last Thursday. After a rather challenging interview comprising both Excel and Accounting competency tests as well as a personality assessment on top of the usual interview questions, and loads of competition, I felt that I would not get a call back. That afternoon my self esteem was at such a low, while doing my grocery shopping, I found an empty aisle in the store and proceeded to have a quick quiet cry! At home, I even went back on to PNet and applied to a few adverts. Imagine my surprise when the agent phoned a few hours later to say I had been selected for a second interview this time with the Financial Director. Nerves! I was elated. Low to high instantly. The second interview focused on interpersonal skills and how I would handle certain situations in the office. I answered to the best of my ability but when my interviewer's face didn't register any clues, doubt instantly set in again. Besides, they were still interviewing people and while I was waiting for my meeting, another applicant was undergoing the competency test! I told myself to hope for the best but expect the worst. Later that afternoon, the recruitment agent phoned with excellent news. I had been offered the job!

I am excited (but also nervous) to start this new chapter in my life. It has been a long time coming. And I can tick an item off my list of goals for 2014. Things are going great this year.

Thank you to everybody that supported me throughout the process, from letting me cry on your shoulders to forwarding my CV to your contacts to sending words of encouragement when I needed them most - it means more to me than I can put into words!

Oh, and thanks for keeping the economy going and paying your taxes whilst I was out of the workforce (haha).

Wishing you all a pleasant week.


Wednesday, 26 February 2014

The 2014 Budget Speech in a Nutshell

Finance minister, Pravin Gordhan (pictured below), delivered the annual budget speech at the Parliamentary buildings in Cape Town earlier today. If you missed it, here are a few highlights:

Sin tax


  • Bottle of 750ml wine - 13c
  • Bottle of 750ml spirits - R4.76
  • 340ml can of beer - 9c
  • Ciders & alcoholic fruit drinks - 9c
  • Cigarettes (box of 20) - 68c
Fuel and environmental levies

  • Fuel levy - 12c/l
  • Road Accident Fund levy - 8c/l
Social grants

  • Elderly and disabled persons - R1 350 p/m
  • Foster care - R830 p/m
  • Child support - R315 p/m
Retirement policies

The tax free lump sum threshold has been raised from R315 000 to R500 000.

Rebates for individual taxpayers

Primary rebate (all taxpayers) - R12 726
Secondary rebate (aged 65 - 74 years) - R7 110
Tertiary rebate (aged 75 years and above) - R2 367.

Follow this link for more information http://www.fin24.com/Budget/Infographics/Budget-infographic-20140225






The Problem With... Uganda's New Homsexuality Laws

People the world over reacted in shock and disbelief at this week's human rights abomination.

Ugandan president Yoweri Museveni stated on Monday that he finds homosexuality "disgusting", and proceeded to sign off an anti-gay legislation that includes life prison sentences for repeat offenders.

Excerpts from his statement, follow below (source News24):



"I have failed to understand that you can fail to be attracted to all these beautiful women and be attracted to a man,"

"That is a really serious matter. There is something really wrong with you," he said.

"Homosexuals are actually mercenaries. They are heterosexual people but because of money they say they are homosexuals. These are prostitutes because of money," he said, asserting that he had taken the time to get scientific advice before signing off on the law.

"No study has shown you can be homosexual by nature," he said. "That man can choose to love a man... is a matter of choice. After listening to the scientists, I got the facts.

"Can somebody be homosexual simply by nature? The answer is no."


Well, Mr President, let me say as a heterosexual South African, that I find your comments disgusting and your lack of knowledge appalling. How did you ever get voted into power? 

Strangely enough this logic sounds familiar - anyone recall Jacob Zuma's ideology to prevent contracting HIV/AIDS? Yes, a shower and some Life Buoy soap - as you do.

This is the very logic that is withholding the African continent from progressing from a third world dimension. Narrow mindedness such as this will hinder growth and development, which is both sad and unfair.

His thoughts on gay oral sex were as follows:
                 
"It is not healthy. You can contract STD [sexually transmitted diseases]. You push the mouth there, you can come back with worms and they enter your stomach because that is a wrong address. You can also contract Hepatitis B," he said.

The poor English and grammar in this statement alone is cause for concern, but the fact that he refers to a component of the human anatomy as an "address" is particularly worrying.

Museveni warned critics of the law not to push the country on the matter.

"I advise friends from the West not to make this an issue because if they make it an issue the more they will lose," he said. "This is social imperialism. To impose social values of one group on our society"

"I would advise Western countries, this is a no-go area," he said. "I don't mind being in a collision course with the West. I am prepared."


Unfortunately the west did not heed your warning, Mr President, and have since issued a statement opposing your views. In my personal opinion, directly challenging the west, or the leader of the United States of America rather, will not end well.  Recently the US amended the constitution to recognize same sex marriages, so Mr Museveni's episode undoubtedly hit a soft spot. The US have threatened to reduce the amount of economic aid it administers to Uganda based on this travesty. 

Has humanity not suffered enough oppression (racism, gender discrimination) that now we need to add same sex couples to the list? 

Love knows no boundaries, be it gender; race or creed.

Live and let live. 


Friday, 21 February 2014

Our Anniversary and a Must See Movie

Yesterday William and I celebrated our 6th anniversary of being a couple.

We were introduced by a mutual friend at the end of 2007, and officially started dating a few months later.
As with most normal couples, our road hasn't been an easy one. Rather like a race track with hurdles every couple of hundred meters. We have traveled somewhat, encountered some amazing people and shared in memorable experiences together. We have also spent more time at the home affairs offices than any couple should have to, but that chapter is now closed (and not a moment too soon). One thing I can say is that our journey has been anything but ordinary, and it has matured us in many ways. It has made us stronger, and we will continue to go from strength to strength. We have so much more we want to see and do, and I look forward to writing the next chapter of our book and seeing what the universe has in store for us.

To the upcoming years (cheers!)

Oh, and for those that were disappointed we haven't gotten engaged - go back and read my post 'So when are you getting married?" :)

On Wednesday night, a group of ladies and I went to watch Winter's Tale at the cinema. Wow, what a mixed bag of emotions this film is. Starring Colin Farrell, Russell Crowe, Will Smith and others, the story-line revolves around Colin Farrell's character in New York in the icy winters of 1914 and 2014. Synopsis: a burglar falls in love with an heiress, who tragically dies of consumption at age 21. When he learns he has the gift of reincarnation he sets out to save her. I don't want to give too much away so that's all I'm going to say but this is definitely one for the ladies. With some romance, drama, action and even sci-fi it will not disappoint. Colleen and I particularly enjoyed it after recently reading Theresa Caputo's "There's More to Life Than This" - some of the connotations and references in the film were similar to content in Theresa's book. I can highly recommend it, so if you don't have plans this weekend, phone a friend and have a girls day/night out. Don't forget the tissues!


Have a fantastic weekend.

Until next time
x

Friday, 14 February 2014

The Problem With... Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day originates back to the 14th century when it received its first connotations about love, and since then has become one of the most celebrated occasions on the calendar.


Call me a pessimist/killjoy but I’ve never been one to partake in the money making gimmick that is Valentine’s Day. Retailers promote the “day of love” in order to boost profits, and one can almost picture the MD of Cardies rubbing his hands together in delight. An example: 12 red roses normally sell for less than R200 but because it’s Valentine’s Day the price doubles to R400!

R400 for flowers (that although pretty) will wilt and die in a few days. Sure – prove your undying love for your partner with some botanicals that won’t make it past Sunday. Flowers aside, teddy bears; chocolates; and those cheesy “I heart you” mugs are all marked up 200%. Restaurants go the extra mile by offering a three course meal with the clichéd violinist, to serenade their patrons. Oh, and to justify the price they’ll even throw in some chocolates. How generous.

Then there are the couples that get engaged on Valentine’s Day. To each their own, but honestly how many other people (in the same restaurant) are going to be fishing rings out of their champagne glasses? Be original!

My fundamental issue with Valentine’s Day is why not show your love/appreciation for your partner every day of the year? Why are we limited to one day? The best gifts or dinners are the unexpected ones. Prices are cheaper and restaurants are emptier.

What am I doing for Valentines? William and I are going to watch a movie and we’ll probably have a home cooked dinner. There’s no one else I’d rather spend my evening with, partaking in one of our favorite things to do.

Whether you celebrate the occasion or not, have a happy Friday and good weekend!


Thursday, 13 February 2014

Conspiracy Theories Surrounding Suspicious Celebrity Deaths

There have been many suspicious deaths of famous people over the ages - think King Tutankhamun’s early Egypt, right up to Princess Diana in the present day.

The following people had acceptable causes of death, but the events leading up to their demise are less simple. Their deaths can, in all likeliness, be considered accidents or coincidences, but what if they were the victims of foul play? Their deaths conveniently aligned with accidental circumstances. There are many conspiracy theorists that believe that some (if not all) of the celebrities below, were in fact murdered. What if there is a secret society in existence? A contract-killing-for-hire entity that acts on clients instructions. The client could be anyone: members of royal families, record label executives, litigation attorneys, even government organisations such as the FBI or CIA.

Samples of the most intriguing cases are listed below:

Whitney Houston (48) died in February 2012, in Los Angeles. The official cause of death was accidental drowning in the bath due to complications caused by heart disease and cocaine use. Whitney died one day before the 2012 Grammy Awards, an event at which she was supposed to make her prolific comeback. She’d cleaned up her drug habit (apparently) and had already returned to the entertainment industry, having completed filming of the movie “Sparkle”. Whitney also wrote and performed the theme song for the movie, hinting that a new album may have been on the cards.


        Heath Ledger (28) died in January 2008, in New York. The coroner listed his cause of death as accidental intoxication from prescription drugs. Heath had finished filming the latest instalment in the Batman series, The Dark Knight – his role as the Joker earned him an Oscar nomination. Posthumously, Heath won the award for Best Supporting Actor at the 2009 ceremony as well as the Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actor. At the peak of his career, and recently having a daughter with actress Michelle Williams, Heath had everything to live for.

        Phillip Seymour Hoffman (46) died in February 2014, in New York. As the investigation into his death in on-going, no official cause has been determined but evidence of prescription drugs and Heroin paraphernalia found at the scene suggest an accidental overdose. Phillip struggled with substance abuse and relapsed last May resulting in him returning to rehab.

         Amy Winehouse (27) died in July 2011, in London. A member of the “27 Club”, a notional group of popular musicians who have died at age 27 as a result of drug/alcohol abuse or murder/suicide. Alcohol poisoning was listed as the official cause of death, which was suspicious as her family announced she’d stopped drinking to improve her health, and she was working on a new album. The doctors went as far as saying that it was the shock of cutting out alcohol immediately which brought on cardiac arrest, and Amy should have rather gradually reduced her alcohol intake. That doesn’t make sense, surely?

        Michael Jackson (50) died in June 2009, in Los Angeles. Michael’s personal physician was charged with homicide following the singer’s death. The autopsy report listed acute propofol and benzodiazepine intoxication which lead to cardiac arrest, the medication which Dr Murray had administered to Michael that fateful day. Michael was rehearsing for his comeback tour prior to his death, a tour of 50 dates in the United Kingdom that was set to his best work ever and ease his financial woes. While some speculate he committed suicide in order to escape the pressure of fame and mounting debt he was accumulating. Sources close to Michael insisted he was in a positive frame of mind and was looking forward to the tour, so the suicide rumors were unfounded.

      Kurt Cobain (27) died in April 2004, in Seattle. Fellow member of the 27 Club. The coroner’s report stated “suicide by shotgun wound to the head” as the cause, but upon further investigation no gunpowder residue was found on the singer’s hands which surely would not have been possible had Kurt pulled the trigger himself. Furthermore, toxicology results showed that Kurt had so much Heroin in his system that it would have rendered him unable to handle a shotgun, if not unconscious. The letter found at the scene did not mention suicide until the last few sentences, and the handwriting did not match that of the beginning lines in the letter.

      Anna Nicole Smith (39) died in February 2007, in Florida. As with so many cases before her, Anna Nicole’s cause of death was an overdose (accidental) of prescription drugs. Strangely enough, none of the 11 medicines found in her system had been prescribed to her, but rather her common law husband (they were never officially married having only partaken in a commitment ceremony). At the time of her death, Anna Nicole was embroiled in a paternity (no less than three men claimed to be the father) and custody battle over her new-born daughter. She was also depressed following the death of her son (also a prescription drug overdose) a mere six months prior to his mother. One questions the logic behind abandoning her young daughter, despite the recent drama in her life.

      Sonny Bono (62) died in August 1997, in California. Sonny died in a water skiing accident after colliding with a tree. Sonny had exchanged the entertainment industry for politics, and being elected as the mayor of Palm Springs. Furthering his political career, Sonny was voted into the United States House of Representatives and was set to launch an investigation into US government employees allegedly selling drugs and weapons in Central America. He died before having the opportunity to do so. Was his death a cover up?

      Elvis Presley (42) died in August 1977, in Tennessee. Fame had taken its toll on Elvis, and he was addicted to prescription medications. He’d lost his ability to perform, and his last tour was cut short. He was found in the bathroom of his home, having choked on his own vomit. As many conspiracy theorists argue, Elvis (like Tupac) faked his own death to get out of the limelight and live his life off radar. Many sightings of “the King” have been reported the world over.

      Bruce Lee (32) and son Brandon Lee (28), died in July 1973 in Hong Kong and 1993in North Carolina respectively. The first of the multiple family member suspicious deaths discussed here. Bruce’s cause of death was ruled a “death by misadventure” following a cerebral oedema. Prior to his death, Bruce complained of a headache and the actress he was visiting at the time gave him a painkiller. The coroner blamed an allergic reaction to the ingredients in the painkiller which then caused Bruce’s brain to swell by 13% and therefore killing him. Many people disregarded his death as accidental, and accused a secret martial arts society of killing the renowned actor. Brandon was killed on the set of the film “The Crow”, when a prop gun used in the scene discharged an improperly deactivated cartridge with the same force as a live round and struck him in the abdomen. An investigation was launched but all interested parties were acquitted, including producer Steven Spielberg. Some believe that the same underground cult that killed Bruce also killed Brandon.

      John F. Kennedy (46) and John F. Kennedy Jr (38) died in November 1963 in Texas and July 1999 in Martha’s Vineyard respectively.  John F Kennedy Sr was assassinated whilst his motorcade was travelling through the streets of Dallas; he was shot three times by a sniper. Lee Harvey Oswald was convicted of his murder but many say that the president was killed in a cover up. Numerous government agencies and even JFK’s successor, Lyndon Johnson, were implicated but without evidence this theory remained just that. There was also the Marilyn Monroe affair rumor, and Marilyn herself died in suspicious circumstances 15 months earlier. A recent poll showed that 61% of participants believed in a conspiracy.
JFK Jr was killed when the light aircraft he was piloting crashed off Long Island. Oddly enough, he did not send out an SOS signal nor contact air traffic control with a request for assistance. Witnesses reported a "blinding, white flash” in the vicinity that the airplane crashed sparking speculation of a missile or explosive on board. No evidence of foul play was found, but many believe JFK Jr may have been killed by the same people/organisation behind his father’s untimely death.

Bob Marley (36) died in May 1981 in Miami. A cancerous lesion in his big toe quickly spread to the rest of his body, and a brain tumor ended his life. The lesion stemmed from the singer putting on a new pair of shoes and a small piece of coiled copper in the shoe injected his toe with radiation, hence weakening the bone and metastasizing as cancer. There was political turmoil in Jamaica, Bob’s home country, and in November 1976 Bob was the victim of an assassination attempt – thought to be orchestrated by the CIA. The boots were a gift and the sender unknown, although it is thought that the CIA sent them after threatening Bob that he would be murdered if he returned to Jamaica before the election. Also, the director of the CIA’s son was seen near Bob’s property the day of the assassination attempt. Consider this: many of the CIA’s files on Bob remain classified to the present day.

Tupac (25) and The Notorious BIG (24) died in September 1996 in Las Vegas; and March 1997 in Los Angeles respectively. Tupac was gunned down by a rival gang following a boxing match featuring Mike Tyson, and taken to hospital. The doctors performed emergency surgery but were unable to stop the internal bleeding. Many speculate that Tupac faked his own death to escape the dangers of the hip hop world, and since his death two albums have been released and he has been listed as number 86 in the “Top 100 Immortal Artists of all Time” by Rolling Stone Magazine.
The Notorious BIG died six months after his long time rival Tupac, also in a shootout. Whilst evidence of involvement from Death Row Records, the record company that had signed up Tupac, and a revenge killing, the LAPD refused to investigate the matter, stirring up suspicions that the record company had members of the law enforcement agency on their payroll.

James Dean (24); Natalie Wood (43); and Sal Mineo (37) died September 1955; November 1981; and February 1976 respectively in California. The three actors all worked on the same film “Rebel without a Cause” and following their deaths, speculation as to whether the film was indeed cursed arose.
James was killed when his Porsche collided head on with another sports car. Emergency services on scene deduced that James had been speeding and tried to execute a racing manoeuvre called “side stepping”, but due to insufficient time and space, veered into oncoming traffic. He had only released three films in his short career but had been destined for many more.
Natalie drowned when she tried to embark a small dinghy from the luxury yacht she and her husband owned, although she was fearful of the ocean and unable to swim. Allegations of her husband pushing her arose when witnesses told authorities they had heard the couple arguing, and Natalie had flirted with their guest, Christopher Walken. Ante-mortem bruises were fund on her body, and her husband later admitted they’d had a fight before she died. Her death was ruled an accident, but to this day neither her husband nor Christopher Walken have ever spoken of the tragic incident again.
Sal was stabbed by a pizza delivery man in an alley. The suspect was convicted and although he denied the charges during court proceedings, prison guards overhead him admitting to the stabbing. Sal was one of the first major actors in Hollywood to publicly acknowledge his homosexuality.

Take from this post what you will. Form your own conclusion. However, it is impossible to deny the fact that not everything is as it seems and one, if not a couple, of the above examples open your mind to alternative theories than those officially stated.


Question everything.


Friday, 7 February 2014

Job Hunting is not for Sissies - Part 2

You'll recall in part 1 of this saga that I am in the job market (read shark tank) at the moment.

Since that post, there have been a few developments. Some good, some not.

The recruiter that set me up for the interview in Booysens contacted me with an accountant position at a manufacturing company in Edenvale. I agreed to an interview, which took place this past Monday. To say the interview was a disaster would be an understatement. Simply put, the workplace/job and myself were not a good match. I was interviewed by the general manager (husband of the CEO), whom I suspect hated me on sight. I must have reminded him of an ex girlfriend that broke up with him. His manner (rude) and lack of people skills made it a rather uncomfortable 40 minutes, and no matter what answer I gave to his questions they never seemed satisfactory. He would sigh, or even roll his eyes and look out the window at times! I willed myself to stay in my chair and not leave the interview, which was very tempting. The interviewer also insulted me saying I did not score very well on my Excel competency test. As you read in Part 1 I did say that some of the questions involved pivot tables and reformatting graphs, which the average person doesn't work with on a daily basis. I maintained my composure and politely explained this to the interviewer and he smirked. Blood boiling!! Apparently I didn't ask the right questions either, because if he asked if I had any and I responded with "no" he abruptly ended the interview. Frankly, I don't think I could work with someone like that so it was a blessing that it never worked out. Week three of the hunt - going well.

I applied for a position advertised on PNet, and the human resources manager set up an interview at an IT company in Kempton Park this past Wednesday. The environment was stunning: professional and modern. I loved the place and the people immediately. The Financial Manager interviewed me, and told me more about the business and the role I had applied for (or the job spec as it is called). The duties and responsibilities were right up my alley, but my interviewer warned me there would be no room for growth as the company had reached its full potential in the field and the only promotions on offer would be for her position or the CEO, neither of which were available as they were in it for life. Upon hearing that, I wasn't that put off as a job with less stress whilst I'm en route to becoming a chartered accountant would be ideal. Climbing the corporate ladder could come later. During our discussion of remuneration, my interviewer told me that my salary expectation may be too high. This is what worried me. No room for growth and staying on a low pay-grade for three to five years was not ideal. The interview ended with the interviewer telling me that she would forward my CV along with the other candidates' to the CEO for perusal, who would then determine a short list of candidates he personally wanted to meet with. I was disappointed. This company and the role were exactly what I was looking for, but am I willing to sacrifice growth AND finances? Tough one. Let's see.

After telling a friend about the interview woes following the manufacturing company debacle, she encouraged me to apply for a position at the sister company of the one she works for. The position was advertised on LinkedIn and the title "a Key Account Manager" of a consumer product. This was a diversion from the accounting field I am used to, but seeing as though my accounts interviews had gone so badly I figured a change of field may not be the worst idea in the world. After briefly speaking with the human resources manager, my interview was set up for Wednesday (yes, same day as the IT company). The interview was conducted my the managing director, a Jewish man, at the company's premises in Spartan. Thankfully my friend had pre-warned me that it is against the Jewish tradition to shake the hand, or even tough another woman except his wife. You can imagine how odd it felt not being able to greet the interviewer with a smile and firm handshake, as good business acumen prescribes. I willed myself to stay seated when he entered the boardroom and kept repeating "don't reach to shake his hand, don't reach to shake his hand." I didn't and immediately mentally high-fived myself. The interviewer's main concern was that I would not be the perfect fit for the position, having only had a purely financial background. I tried to convince him otherwise, stating that I felt business is only built on customer relationships and that it is a skill that always has room for improvement. True, I do still want to become a chartered accountant, but having some customer interface experience could only assist me later in life, whether I am in the finance field or not. The interview was less than half an hour and purely consisted of discussion as to whether or not I was suitable for the position. I was told my application would be considered and discussed with another member of senior management after which they will contact me. Before the interview I was positive and upbeat about the change in career direction but coming out of it, self doubt had crept in. Whether or not the job is offered to me remains to be seen and if offered, whether or not I will accept it will require A LOT of thought.

In between these interviews, I have still been trawling the websites, following up with the recruitment agents and (out of desperation) yesterday I bought the classifieds newspaper. There were no suitable vacancies but at least it was another option investigated.

In summation - three weeks and four interviews. Hours of "selling myself" and getting all worked up with nerves prior to each interview. I understand that candidates need to put their best foot forward and mention all their good points to stand a chance of being offered a job, but what if someone were to over-sell him/herself and not be able to deliver once employed? Modesty goes out the window in interviews and that fact makes me uncomfortable. 

Overall the job hunt process is draining: mentally and emotionally but I am eternally optimistic that this series ends with Part 3.

Have a great weekend!


Monday, 27 January 2014

Job Hunting is not for Sissies - Part 1

After two years at home as a full time accounting student, I have decided to re-enter the workforce and am currently in the job market.

I now know (and understand) why some people stay in the same dead end job for years. They're unhappy, but it's way better than being out there in the shark tank. Job hunting is a roller-coaster. There will be peaks when everything is going well - and you literally feel like throwing your arms up in the air and screaming "woohoo" - and also pits, where your heart is in your throat and you are very tempted to push the emergency stop button and exit the ride.

Securing an interview boosts self confidence and job seekers are instilled with fresh motivation. They are worth something. They CAN secure that position. Elation. Happiness is. And then there are the moments when you have never doubted yourself more. When a recruitment agent is picking your CV apart like a microbiologist examining the stem of a plant, your self confidence decreases. They question everything. Rightfully so, though. They need to know who and what you are before sending you for interviews. For once I am on the receiving end of numerous questions and requests to provide supporting documents. The auditor becomes the auditee. Recruitment agents audit candidates.

This is how the process works in South Africa: a candidate applies for a position (submits his/her CV) on one of the many job websites. The recruitment agent that posted the advert reviews the CVs and makes a short list of the suitable candidates for the relevant position. The agent then contacts the short list of candidates and arranges to meet them for an interview. Candidates are required to take copies of their Identity Documents, drivers licenses, Matric and tertiary qualification certificates, a photograph, and their last/most recent payslip to the interview. That's just the start of the admin. Once at the agency, candidates are required to fill out indemnity forms, confidentiality; disclaimer and biographical information forms. Forms to consent to ITC and criminal record checks are also signed. Fingerprints are taken and only after that will the agent sit down with you. Again, these checks are all within reason as the responsibility of making an successful placement rests with the agent.

Up till now, I have met with four recruiters.

Recruitment agent #1: This agency (well renowned company with branches all over South Africa) is situated in Boksburg. I ran the verification gauntlet above, and then had to complete competency tests on Microsoft Excel and Bookkeeping. The Excel test comprised simple (make the text of a cell "bold") and more difficult (reformatting graphs and tables) questions. I managed to pass, luckily. The bookkeeping test went much better than the Excel test and I scored 96%. Yay me. The consultant didn't quiz me on what type of industry or environment I'd like to work in (which I feel are pertinent questions), nor did she ask about my interpersonal skills or long term goals. The agent had a position in mind for me, and to be honest I think that was it for her. I was the perfect candidate and she wouldn't have to look any further. The company in question was in the agricultural industry, situated in Booysens (the not so nice part of Johannesburg). I went for the interview, and although the managerial experience and responsibility were plus factors there were also some negatives to it. I discussed the job with my mom, William and a few friends, slept on it and then decided the next morning to turn it down. Some may question my reasoning with this decision, but I felt it was better to wait for a better suited opportunity to come along than accept the first offer simply because it was an offer.

Recruitment agent #2: A friend referred me to this purely financial oriented agency in Midrand, after having dealt with them recently. After agent #1 I was hopeful that this would be the key. This consultant was everything agent #1 was not. She was warm, friendly and she encompassed the vision of a recruitment agent I had in mind. Our conversation points included personality traits, technical specifications, ideal work environments, hopes and dreams. Real in depth getting-to-know-the-candidate stuff. She mentioned a position that had become available just before Christmas at a multi-national French cosmetics company that I would be suitable for, and I was elated. A French cosmetics company! What more could a girl ask for? I took French to IGCSE level in high school. The name of this very blog is of French origin! Heck, I'm even considering buying a French car. It was fate. She told me not to get my hopes up as she would have to confirm that the vacancy had not yet been filled, but it was too late. I was already day dreaming of business trips to Paris, attending glamorous photo shoots for products and improving my vocabulary and cultural skills.Failing that vacancy, the consultant assured me she had other opportunities for me so I should go home and wait for her call. I did. She never got back to me regarding the French job (or any other for that matter) so I assume there's nothing available at the moment. I'm disappointed.

Recruitment agent #3: This referral came from a family friend, and our interview was held in Johannesburg. The consultant was bubbly, friendly, and vibrant but possesses the analytical skills worthy of the law degree she holds. After questioning me about my previous work experience, qualifications and personality, the conversation moved to prospective work environments. A question that came up in all three of my interviews was: How do I handle conflict? My response was that I am not an aggressive person and will try solve matters with the other party in an even manner . Should that be unsuccessful I would call a senior member of staff to assist. At the time it seemed a strange question, but looking back it was very important as conflict between staff members arises frequently, and no company wants to employ a candidate with anger issues. The consultant then asked if I would be interested in returning to an audit firm. No deal. My experience in public practice built character, and taught me about many different industries but it can be soul devouring at times. Besides, I'd like to experience the work environment on the other side of the fence - that way I can make an informed decision about long term prospects. I was told that not wanting another public practice job eliminated a fair amount of vacancies, but I should sit tight and wait as new vacancies come up every day and the right one was out there for me.

Recruitment agent #4: I responded to an online advert for a vacancy on PNet, and agent #4 contacted me to set up a meeting at her Benoni based office. This time I was required to complete a typing skills evaluation. I'm not the fastest typist but I managed to score in the 90th percentile (fist pump). As per usual, she went through my CV with a fine tooth comb and asked questions like "Why has it taken you so long to complete your degree?". Fair enough question but on that day I took it a bit personally. I replied evenly with "I started articles and studying at the same time" but in my mind I was totally defensive. The agent moved on to interpersonal skills and asked why I thought a company should hire me. What does one say that a million candidates before them HAVEN'T said? The usual buzz words such as loyal, honest, hardworking, attentive to detail, etc immediately come to mind. I picked the ones I felt described me best but this agent wasn't appeased. She told me that since I had very little interview skills she would coach me on the best way to answer these questions. Apparently one should use one of the abovementioned qualities and then back it up with an example. I was then asked if I had won any special awards or similar at my previous workplace. Um no, auditing isn't really the "Employee of the Month" type of industry. At the end of our interview, the agent said she would like to send me for an interview at a mining equipment company not too far from home.What I've learnt in the job hunting game is that it encompasses the hurry-up-and-wait mentality. Nothing happens quickly.

I haven't left the hunt solely up to the recruitment agents. In between meetings with them, I have been trawling PNet, Careers24 and Career Junction. I have responded to adverts in the local newspaper, followed up on friend's referrals and taken a long shot by emailing my CV to companies that list their HR department contact details on their website. Some respond to acknowledge your email, advise you there aren't any suitable vacancies at present but will keep your CV on file for future reference. Others don't respond at all.

That is where I stand at the moment. Two weeks of active job hunting in, and I am experiencing many emotions. Frustration, excitement, impatience, hope. Yes, the right job will come along at the right time, sooner rather than later though - preferably.